We all want to raise responsible children. And we all want to live in a world where others have been raised to be responsible, a world where adults don\u2019t shrug off their responsibilities as citizens. So how do we raise our kids to take responsibility for their choices and their impact on the world?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You begin by seeing responsibility as something joyful for your child, instead of a burden. All children want to see themselves as response-able \u2014 powerful and able to respond to what needs to be done. They need this for their self esteem, and for their lives to have meaning. Children don\u2019t want just to be doted on. They need, like the rest of us, to feel like they matter to the world, like their lives make a positive contribution.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
So, you don\u2019t really need to teach kids to handle themselves responsibly in the world; you just need to teach them that they have the power to contribute positively, and to relate to them so that they want to do so.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Here are 15 everyday strategies guaranteed to increase your kids\u2019 \u201cresponse-ability\u201d quotient. Notice that this list focuses on your child\u2019s span of control, rather than on tasks you want them to do. There\u2019s a reason for that. When you focus on a list of tasks your child \u201cshould\u201d do, you end up creating power struggles. \u201cBy now you should be able to clean up your own toys!\u201d If, instead, you focus on helping your child take charge of his life, and support him as necessary to learn each new skill, your child wants to step into each new responsibility. Instead of your \u201cholding him responsible,\u201d he becomes motivated to take responsibility for himself. It\u2019s a subtle shift, but it makes all the difference in the world.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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